We all make them.
It's just the way life is.
No one is perfect.
We mess up.
Sometimes it takes a while to realize our mistakes, and then even longer to admit to them, apologize for them, and ask for forgiveness.
Some of my mistakes are small. Some are big.
Sometimes I didn't even know I made mistakes until it was pointed out to me. At times I didn't care.
Sometimes I did.
I'm currently dealing with repercussions from mistakes I made about a year ago. Bad decisions. Decisions that suited ME. No one else. I thought I was being controlled. Instead, I was being cared about. I didn't see that at the time.
It took months for me to figure out that the decisions I was making weren't good for me, if I wanted to move forward with life.
It's hard to move forward though, when those bad decisions keep creeping back up. I'm not still making them, but I'm being reminded of them. Like, "Here's a bad choice that was made. When is it going to be made again?" Well, it's not. People CAN change.
When they do, trust that they're doing it for the right reasons. Not out of obligations, but because they want to. For me, it's the latter. I've spent enough time being selfish and doing stuff that *I wanted to do, without regard to others.
People screw up. It's part of life. But that doesn't mean that they'll continue to screw up in the future. And it really doesn't help when they're reminded of the things they did wrong forever. I'm not going to keep chastising Emily for shoving Jacob into the wall for months on end. It makes her feel bad. I don't want her to feel bad. I want her to know that even though she made a bad decision, all she can do is try to do better in the future.
Like all of us. We screw up, we learn to do better. Holding grudges is not what I do. If it were, trust me, you would know. I don't think ANYONE should hold a grudge. Unless you want an ulcer, or a heart attack or something. But I don't. I kind of like being wanted by my kids and my nieces and nephew.
So before you continue to be mad at someone for letting you down, think about all of the times that you have let someone else down.
Matthew 7:5 "You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye."
Or as I like to say, "Come back when you're perfect."
Everybody makes mistakes. Continuously reminding others of all the wrongs they have done, brings them down. Sometimes so far they can't climb back up. I dealt with that for YEARS. I was hearing about stuff that had happened 12 yrs prior, just to hurt me. It's awful. No one has the right to make others feel bad. Especially when it's done on purpose.
Life is too short to live in the past. It can't be changed or undone. Accept it, and move on.